It’s been a while since I answered some of the questions I receive through comments and via email here on the blog.
As some of you already know, I always respond to your emails. Sometimes, I even drop everything I am doing to answer right away!
I am so truly touched by how many of you think of me, write to me, understand me and find me someone worth reaching out to for advice or even just a really good laugh.
If you ever have any questions, please feel free to email me!
You run an awful lot of miles a week. Are you training for a marathon? I don’t think you have ever run one, right?
That is correct. I have not run a marathon to date and no, I am not currently training for one at the moment.
I do not know that I ever will train for a marathon because I really don’t have the desire to do so. I don’t know why but the feeling to run 26.2 miles just isn’t there so why push myself to do something I don’t really care to do?
I did think about entering the New York City Marathon lottery back in January. However, when I thought about paying the $11 for the entry chance and then considered the $260 entry fee had I been accepted, I realized that it just wasn’t money worth spending because I just didn’t care.
I love to run. I don’t feel like I need to set a goal or sign up to run a race to have something to train for in order to keep up with my exercise routine so until the true marathon desire strikes, if it ever does that is, I will stick to the occasional 10k and half marathon instead.
I am not easily influenced by others so following lots of marathon runners doesn’t phase me. I follow their training and get excited for them to run their best marathon but it does not in any way make me want to stay on my feet for almost 4 hours.
I know you are divorced but for how long? Do you get along with your ex-husband?
I have technically been divorced, as in all court dates finished and papers signed since the fall of 2011. However, the divorce process is a long one (especially in New York) which means my divorce actually started a few years before the final agreement was reached.
My ex-husband and I do get along. Like really well for the most part.
My divorce and the events that led up to the divorce were not fun or easy and it was really really really rough for a long time but I am not one to hold on to anger or negativity especially because of my son.
I always knew that it was best for my son to have two parents who got along which meant it was important to find the strength to move past the details of the divorce and find a way to not only be civil, but be friends with my ex.
I am still close with his family too. Very close. My mother in law was one of my best friends. We used to speak 20 times a day (no exaggeration here) and she was emotionally there for me at every hour of every day of the roughest moments of my life and now is no different.
Getting divorced not only broke up my marriage but threatened to break apart my ties to the family I married into as well. For a while it was hard to maintain those relationships but over time, it became easier to figure out the new normal and remain close, just in a different way.
As my son gets older, and especially lately, he has a lot of questions about our divorce which is actually much harder for me to handle than I thought. A part of me felt as though I got through the tough stuff already and that since the actual demise of my marriage and divorce process occurred when my son was much younger, that we had dodged a major bullet in terms of my son’s feelings and reactions to the situation.
Boy was I wrong. My son wants to know things now, things that really aren’t meant for his ears. During these times where I struggle to find the words for our conversations, my ex-husband is the first person I text while simultaneously dialing his mother for assistance.
I am glad to have the support system that I do, especially since the help comes from both sides of my son’s family. I think it’s really important for my son to see that although his parents are divorced, we are still able to work together (they call it co-parenting) and that he has the love and support from not only me and my side of my family, but his dad’s family too.
I can’t conclude this post talking about divorce. We need something happier, like last night’s ice cream cone which my son and I shared at Baskin Robbins.
We went for an evening walk to Dunkin Donuts (which has a Baskin Robbins now) and Monday is free waffle cone night! My son chose chocolate peanut butter ice cream and the new Oreo & Cake flavor <- Highly recommend it 🙂
Previous Reader Questions Answered Posts:
Reader Questions Answered #1 – running, fueling and running shoes talk
Reader Questions Answered #2 – oatmeal chat, tapering and sweating during races
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Are you currently training for a race?
If you haven’t run a marathon yet, do you plan to ever run one?
Ice cream – in a cone or a cup?