Whenever I share my latest thoughts on disordered eating and amenorrhea, I usually need to follow up the post with another one on the subject pretty quickly as I see these topics are the most appreciated.
I think it’s great to know who my audience is and which posts are desired. It’s also somewhat nice to know that on some level, we all go through the same thought processes and situations at some point in our lives.
At the same time, I think it’s sort of sad. It’s sad that so many people struggle with figuring out how to stop obsessing about food and the scale and start living a full life of healthy activity and enjoyable meals.
The diet and fitness industry is so focused on losing weight while getting stronger on less food when at least over here in my corner of the internet, we all need to ignore that.
We need to figure out how to exercise just enough without overdoing it, weigh enough rather than drop pounds and learn to eat to support our health rather than determine how to slash crazy calories.
On that note, let’s chat about something I have been thinking a lot about lately…
So sometimes my mother says things that really make sense.
I was going through one of my I hate my clothes moods and my mother said the following to me in her attempt to talk to me down from the ledge.
Clothes should make you feel good.
If they don’t, get rid of them.
Clothes should make you feel good.
Did you hear that?
How many of us are keeping clothing in our closets that aren’t making us feel good yet we try to wear them anyway for various reasons?
Maybe the pants are from when you were at your skinniest (and unhealthiest).
Maybe the dress is from seven years ago when you were younger.
Maybe the outfit is from before you started running regularly so now you have muscles that fill up space that you didn’t notice in the past.
Maybe your shirts are shorter than they used to be and don’t balance right with your pants but you are still trying to make them work because they used to work and the fact that they don’t work now means something might have changed or needs to change and no one likes change.
What happened? Did I do something wrong? Why doesn’t this outfit work for me anymore?
Did I gain weight? Gain muscle? Eat too much? What changed?
Whatever the reason be, if what you are putting on your body makes you think too much, it needs to go.
The black pants I have talked about in the past have now been donated.
While the black pants still fit me, they were snugger in certain spots which caused me to think way too much every time I put them on my body.
It’s like I gave up the scale years ago yet these black pants were feeling like the scale to me!
I bought the pants when I was too thin and not getting my period. I didn’t need the reminder every time I looked at the pants in my closet.
I wasn’t comfortable mentally or physically in the black pants so I donated them in one of those clothing donation bins.
I think you should do the same.
Get rid of the clothes in your closet that aren’t making you feel good.
I know from the comments and the emails I receive that many of you are dealing with recovery from disordered eating, amenorrhea and other types of eating/body image issues.
I have a feeling that part of what holds you back is trying to fit into the clothing that probably shouldn’t still fit.
Let your body do it’s thing. Don’t allow your clothing to hinder you in the process.
We need to remember that the slightest adjustment in muscle and shape can change how our clothing is going to fit.
It’s nothing drastic but can feel drastic mentally and physically if we allow it.
So don’t allow it.
It’s such an amazing feeling when we wear something that makes us feel good. When our shirts and pants, dresses and skirts fit the way that they should.
I am a strong believer in knowing that if you are eating a diet of mostly nutrient dense foods balanced with your favorite indulgences while working out regularly, you do not need to think about weight management, what size you wear or how to make changes for the better.
You are already for the better.
Posts of Interest:
Jeans Can Lie < – One of my first posts about how your body changes which affects how your clothes fit.
Achieving a Balanced Attitude Towards Your Weight < – My balanced approach to staying in check and healthy
Body Image Chat < – More about clothes and how they attempt to mess with our brains. Learn what to think about instead!
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Do you have some things in your closet that maybe you should donate?
How often do you clean out your closet? Who do you give the clothing to – a donation bin or relative/friend?
22 thoughts on “Clothes Should Make You Feel Good”
I am due for a closet clean out. I have a few pairs of pants that just don’t fit well anymore. Part of the problem is that they sometimes shrink in the wash or stretch out, so overtime they lose their fit. I have some clothes that I like one day but not the next, so I am hesitant to throw anything like that out. It really just depends how Im feeling each day!
Thanks for sharing! As I am back to work and now putting on pants (not a bathing suit or workout leggings everyday) I notice that a lot of my pants are more snug. At first I had that bad feeling about myself and then realized, I have been doing a lot more weight lifting this year and less running (which seems to make me more slim) and that it’s not that I have gained weight (I too ditched the scale, so I have no idea what I weigh) but that what I am doing is working! It feels so empowering to squat with heavier weights and gain muscle. Since the pants aren’t making me happy, I am planning to go find some new ones that will!
yes, get a fresh pair that feel good!
This is a great post, and we all need to do just that–get rid of clothes that don’t make you feel good wearing them. I still have a few items of clothing that I bought when I was underweight (like, unhealthy underweight), and although I know it’s good that I’ve gained weight, it still bothers me that these things don’t fit like they used to (and it’s not even that they don’t fit–anything that feels snug or tight where I think it shouldn’t makes me anxious, and I know it’s ridiculous). I know that I eat pretty well and workout regularly (although I don’t run as much as I’d like–my knees & hip flexors aren’t what they were when I was 25…), so I just try to focus on the fact that I’m keeping myself healthy and not worry that I’m not a size 00.
i completely understand. I’ve had those 00 in my closet and sometimes I’m like, that’s not even a size, it’s less than a size.
I’m so glad you talk about this stuff! So many people struggle with the whole body issue. I try to hold onto clothes through thick and thin, just because I hate spending money (and I hate shopping!) but I think if I had a pair of pants that made me feel yucky, I’d definitely get rid of them!
I hate getting rid of things I liked or spent good money on but sometimes, the stuff just has to go. but I do like shopping 😉
Such a well-written and relevant post! I try to donate clothes that don’t fit well- I always figure someone else needs than more than me not wearing them or feeling bad about my body in them. Ineed to get a bunch of dresses tailored for weddings next year, but I’m waiting because even where I’m in during marathon training can affect if something is too big or too tight.
I have so many more things to donate! I just need to go through my drawers again. it’s like a never ending process
Love this post.
We did a HUGE closet dump this summer, it felt great. But I definitely know that I need to get rid of even more stuff that I am holding onto for no reason…(like your black pants). This post has given me the motivation to just do it….and it’s rainy and gross here today so I am on it! We almost always donate to Goodwill or other organizations like that. But once in a while, I give it to the cleaners and you would think they have won the lottery:) Makes me feel good.
I could donate a few full drawers of shirts right now! I keep holding them because I loved these shirts for so long but they are worn and not working for me anymore. Maybe I will unload them. I did a goodwill donation this summer when I was in closet clean out mode!
That is wonderful advice! It’s so interesting to me how people swing one way or the other. Most of my clients have no idea how much they are greatly over eating and studies show that Americans are consuming many more calories than ever before which has been directly linked to climbing obesity and diabetes. I think there’s definitely two sides to the spectrum – those who are obsessive & restrictive about it and those who overeat greatly. Finding that balance in between is really the key.
I love this post and you and your mother hit the nail on the head: Your clothes should make you feel good. It’s kind of why I live in sweatpants these days. Most of my clothes don’t feel great because they’re too tight and I haven’t lost the baby weight yet. Instead of stressing it, I don’t wear them and instead wear things which fit and therefore make me feel good. It’s amazing how often poor fitting clothes is the source of body image issues.
I so agree with all of this. Clothes aren’t supposed to make us miserable, they should make us feel good and comfortable in our skin! I had to get rid of a bunch of clothing over the past few years as I went from junior’s sizing to women’s sizing. I remember being so worried about it, but my mom was really helpful in reminding me that my body was supposed to be changing during this time. Now I’m a lot more secure in what I choose to wear, and if I don’t like something, I get rid of it!
It’s kind of funny how we hang on to pieces of clothing that don’t fit us anymore. I do it all the time, but it’s so silly because I don’t even feel good in them! Thanks for this reminder 🙂
This is such a great post. I’ve definitely let clothes get me into a negative head space, especially when it feels like I’m eating right, exercising, and doing all the right things, and my body is -still- changing. And the strangest thing is that I don’t even have any problem with my body most of the time – it’s only when I put something on that doesn’t fit right that my head goes all weird. Clothes should fit our bodies – not the other way around.
that’s exactly it! I have zero issue until something doesn’t fit and then my head can start spinning.
Sometimes it is so easy if you are still blessed with your high school body due to a lot of cardio cause of hockey that one doesn’t need to think about these issues.
Thanks so much for sharing this! I can totally relate to this as I am currently recovering from a bad accident and haven’t been able to work out like I once did. A lot of my clothes don’t fit like they once did and I tend to beat myself up over that fact and it makes it hard to continue to work on my fitness when I feel like I have so far to go to get back to where I once was.
I say get some new clothes, they will instantly make you feel better.